Things I wish someone told me.

Oh hey,

So I caught myself thinking the other day about things that I wish I knew when I was a teenager as I feel that times can be a bit uncertain at this stage and mine definitely was. Although I have to say that my mum probably told me these on numerous occasions because she is just the best but as any other teenager I had a mind of my own and didn't take any notice of them.

THINGS I WISH I KNEW WHEN I WAS A TEENAGER:

1. Don't ever let people doubt yourself. Admittedly, I feel this doesn't just apply to teenagers but to adults also. It's so easy to fall into a habit of doing things that other people approve of and doubt yourself and your capabilities in something that you want to do and what makes you happy. Just remember, people tend to overreact to things that they are not familiar with but just think that people like Steve Jobs for example thought outside of the box in the world of  black and white TV and managed to make such a difference into our world still to this date. 

So write down your CRAZY ideas and believe in yourself but most importantly surround yourself with people who make you laugh, support you and just make you feel good. I feel that this is so important. 

2. Puberty can be unkind. It's a fact that you need to accept. Every girl is growing up in a different way from you and boobies, hips,  unwanted hair, extra un(wanted) weight are all part of that. I remember back when I was about 13, most of my girlfriends' breast area has started showing a slight change and mine was flat as an ironing board and probably as any other girl I was a little bit upset BUT when ahem... TMI alert... my period started ahem... My body have decided to grow in width and height all at once! So in a few months I put on 10 extra kg which for my height of 155cm was a tough pill to swallow. Whilst I watched my friends blooming like beautiful roses, me on the other hand looked like an ugly, grey and an overweight duck.
However, I do remember my mum telling me that: 'Jane, remember that cartoon ( Ukrainian) where an ugly grey duck, one day became a beautiful white swan?' to which I always said: 'Of course I do, mum!' and every time when my mum reminded me that one day I might become a beautiful white swan, life seemed to get better.

Just remember, looks are not everything, especially when you're going through something like puberty. Just take everything in and have fun with your friends because believe me one day, you won't be able to see them everyday, so those moments are very precious.

3. Boys. Now, this point was very important to me.Purely because I was very interested in them at this point in my life and well... they weren't, and it's the best way I can describe that very inconvenient situation. I mean who would want to date a fat looking duck? Well no one. So then I decided to take the matter in my own hands and would tell boys that I fancied them and well.. Most of the time I was left heartbroken because they just didn't feel the same way about me. My first every super bad crush was at school on a boy in a year above me. However the most amusing thing was that I didn't even speak to the guy and I vividly remember telling my mum and my friends that I love him!! Makes me smile now that I'm talking about it but trust me it wasn't all fun and games for me back then.
But once again, it gets better! I finally started going out with a boy when I was 16, and then my dating life has officially begun until I got married when I was 21.

4. Annoying parents. I actually feel very sad writing this now that I'm 26 but back in the day when I was a teenager, there were many times when I felt that my parents were getting on my way, they just didn't get me, I thought! Well, that was just the period of my life when I thought I know everything and I don't need their advice! How wrong was I?! At the age of 26, my parents are the only people that I trust completely and I know they won't betray me at the first opportunity. So try and understand your parents, they are simply worried about you and they love you so much that they want you to succeed greatly. So go on and give them a kiss and a hug, they will appreciate it trust me!

I could probably go on writing another 10 pages of this blog post but I don't think anyone will want to spend that much time reading a blog post:)
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Thank you.

Jane xxx

Life can be unfair but its still good.

So, I'm starting to write this on a ripped piece of paper while pretending that I'm working at my desk of my boring job and quite weirdly this is my inspiration for today's blog post.
I've never considered myself lazy or selfish when it comes to work (says a girl that pretends to work while writing this, ironic huh?) I always had to work very hard to achieve whatever it is I want to achieve and ....... I am not complaining about it as I feel it builds up a character and highlights your strengths and weaknesses. But it all can get a bit too much and overwhelming while chasing your dreams.

Growing up I was one of those kids who believed in magical things with all my heart. When I was 11 my cousin told me that Santa doesn't exist and very sadly proved it to me. Long story short my tiny little heart was broken for months! I suppose this just shows you how much of a little girl I was. Writing it now makes it look quite cute actually, without sounding too big headed!

I do think that I kept some of that innocence to this day and quite frankly I'm very happy about that because it's so easy to lose it in the world full of anger and sometimes disappointment. I'm sure we've all been there....and if you haven't well aren't you lucky :)
Chasing my dreams and aspirations are my biggest struggles as sometimes I ask myself questions that go something like ' Is there any point?' 'Did I go to university, so that after I could work in a boring office job?' ' Why can I not get the job that I want after studying so hard'. 'Qualifications is what you need' they said. I do have to agree to some extend however the world has changed a lot since when your diploma and qualifications could get you the job/life that you want.
After endless amount of job applications and telephone calls from various agents who only seem to offer me jobs for which I'm quite overqualified, I've come to a conclusion that things that you want are not easy to get. As I previously said I have to work very hard and keep believing in my dream so that one day it can become true and that's exactly what I am up to at the moment. Keep believing and keep working hard - thats the harsh truth my friends...

Another thing that has been playing on my mind recently is seeing how many miserable people out there are trying to ruin your day. Now you might think that I'm over exaggerating but trust me I'm not. The question that I have for those type of people is ' Is not easier to just be nice to people?' or 'Why can you not just be nice?' Call me an innocent girl but I do think it's so much easier to live your life when you're nice to people because I'm a strong believer that if you spread out positivity then karma will thank you for it.

But it's not all so bad folks! There are things in life that are so simple but can be very rewarding and make you very happy. Laughing until your tummy hurts while reminiscing about the good times, preparing dinner with your loved one regardless whether it's something special - just spending time together is a good enough reason, getting surprised by a beautiful bunch of flowers or just being wrapped up in a softest blanket while sipping on your favourite hot drink ( mine is lemon, ginger and honey tea) are all of my very simple examples of happiness.

While writing this post, my hubby actually surprised me with this bunch :) 

My favourite tea at the moment is by Sainsbury's

Me&my bestest friend from 2010

It's inevitable that we will meet people that are miserable or unhappy and we can't blame them for that, it's their own choice and I suppose what we can do is just take no notice of it and instead be nice to them. Trust me they will not expect that!

Life is such a wonderful present and I want to enjoy it to the full, don't you?

Have a lovely evening on this glorious Sunday.

Jane xxx